What the Law Says About Love: A Critique

"Is there love in Law?" and the somber answer to that question is -- yes.

Sometime ago, me and my friend were talking about the concept of love and the unending theories behind it, and since that time I was taking up Persons and Family Relations, that was her question to me - whether the law speaks of love.

Art. 68 of the Family Code states that:"The husband and wife are obliged to live together, observe mutual love, respect and fidelity, and render mutual help and support"

You may ask these questions - "Why does the law want to meddle with people's  relationships?" Where does love begin and where does it end? What if couples DO NOT want to love each other?

In the first place, what does the law know about love anyway? Did law ever fell in love? I wonder if the law ever had its heart broken. It seems that the law presents its views of love as either overly ambiguous or too shallow.

The law seems to speak of love as if it were some compulsory right, such as a right to vote, or as if it were everyone's obligation, such as to pay taxes.

To be sure, love is neither an obligation nor is it a right. No one can be compelled to give love to another if he does not want to. You can either get love or give love for your own personal reasons, but certainly you cannot oblige a person to give it, more so, treat love as a birthright.

Love is learned and can be unlearned. If a person learns or unlearns to love another, it's entirely up to them.

Love is always bound by time. One can only love another up until one, or both, decides not to love each other anymore due to personal reason they may have.

And last,  Love as fictitious creation of people may  reciprocally be dissolved AT WILL and not by any law's behest.

Although it is the business of the State to preserve social order by protecting the stability of the family as a basic social institution, the State has no right, and is not a party of interest, to the matters of the heart.

Humans, married or not, should NOT be obligated to love each other. Everyone should be free to decide for themselves on what goes on with their relationships because love is always a matter of the will. It is a choice and not an obligation that can be imposed by law.

poker tour 5th leg at Jeff's place in Makati (or is it Taguig?) haha

For the first time in the history of poker tour, Jeff won! Jeff, with his home court advantage, used his wit and trash talking style to outplay and intimidate the rest of the gang. It was the longest poker match ever recorded in the history of the tourney. Congrats jeff. may one win ka na! Good job. :)

The Philosophy of Bruce Lee

Recently my friend let me watch Enter the Dragon, quotable quotes:

Teacher: I see your talents have gone beyond the mere physical level. Your skills are now at the point of spiritual insight. I have several questions. What is the highest technique you hope to achieve ?
Lee: To have no technique.
Teacher: Very good. What are your thoughts when facing an opponent ?
Lee: There is no opponent.
Teacher: And why is that ?
Lee: Because the word "I" does not exist.
Teacher: So, continue...
Lee: A good fight should be like a small play, but played seriously. A good martial artist does not become tense, but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come. When the opponent expands, I contract. When he contracts, I expand. And when there is an opportunity, I do not hit. It hits all by itself.
Teacher: Now, you must remember: the enemy has only images and illusions behind which he hides his true motives. Destroy the image and you will break the enemy.

Bruce Lee's Philosophy
By Shawn Olson

Posted on 10.20.02
When Bruce Lee died in 1973, he did not leave this world without making an impact. Beyond his success as a martial arts actor, which was transforming enough to the movie industry in bringing the martial arts genre to life, he was a teacher. The man who played the role of Kato in The Green Hornet and starred in four and a half films was a martial arts instructor, and more—he was a philosopher. He majored in philosophy at the University of Washington. A man who devoured books on a wide range of subjects, from Eastern philosophy to gung fu to psychotherapy, he yearned for knowledge. As he put it, he wanted to express himself, and to express himself honestly. In order to express himself honestly, he had to know himself well. The idea should remind us of Socrates’ admonition, “Know thyself.”

“All knowledge ultimately means self knowledge,” said Lee in an interview. For Lee, “to be a martial artist means also to be an artist of life.”

In Lee’s pursuit of personal perfection, he walked a life of deep philosophy that urged him to seek answers and improvement. Bruce Lee was perhaps the best martial artist because he made himself that way, because he sought answers and resolutions. What set him apart from other martial artists was his understanding of the human dynamics of change. Most traditional martial artists taught a style of fighting that was set in stone—they gave a fixed set of moves and attitudes that defined their specific form of fighting. It reflects a very old form of thought given in Western philosophy in the words of Plato who believed in another realm of eternally static perfection to which we must mold ourselves. In the traditional view, change is imperfect; perfection is sought by denying change any relationship to the deeper, metaphysical reality.

Denying this paradigm, Lee took an objective look at his life, and his art, and sought to improve himself. His success owed to his philosophy in that his growth was not thwarted by the strict dictates of a fixed list of eternal facts. Other martial artists might improve themselves to the standards of a fixed style, but Lee measured himself to the standards of human potential and creation: “Style concludes. Man grows.” This attitude almost made it impossible for someone as dedicated as Lee to not become such a revolutionary master of his art.

Lee wrote, “In the long history of martial arts, the instinct to follow and imitate seems to be inherent in most martial artists, instructors and students alike.”

“Each man,” wrote Lee, “belongs to a style which claims to possess truth to the exclusion of all other styles. These styles become institutes with their explanations of the “Way,” dissecting and isolating the harmony and firmness and gentleness, establishing rhythmic forms as the particular state of their techniques.” The consequence, wrote Lee, was to bypass the purpose of martial arts and create “flowery forms” and “artificial techniques” that become “ritualistically practiced.”

Noting that “real combat is not fixed and is very much ‘alive’,” Lee stated that the “fancy mess” created by ritualizing fighting “is nothing but a blind devotion to the systematic uselessness of practicing routines or stunts that lead nowhere.”

The philosophy promoted by Lee was repugnant to many people already mired in traditional habits of thought. Angry or not, they could not deny the success of Lee. His understanding of martial arts was too profound for traditional views to keep him back.

The logic of Lee’s philosophy, which he uneasily labeled jeet kune do (he was cautious of giving his philosophy a title for fear of its crystallization into yet another style), is quite simple: “The art of Jeet Kune Do is simply to simplify.” The martial artist must ask two questions. 1) What is it that I want to accomplish? 2) What is the quickest, most efficient and effective way to reach my objective?

Lee felt that much of the “fancy mess” in martial arts wasted time and energy, and that styles restricted action. Styles, which lead to specialization, make a person incapable of handling a true master of martial arts. A kick-boxer would be unable to handle a wrestler who had the kick-boxer on the ground. A wrestler would be helpless against a boxer if the boxer kept the wrestler at arm’s reach.

Wrote Lee, “There is a great temptation to exploit favorite strokes to the neglect of most others. While this may bring initial success, it is unlikely to enable one to gain regular results in the highest-class competition. All too soon one’s opponents will find the answer to a limited game; a routine system of defense, for instance, plays into the hands of an observant opponent.”

To that end Lee pushed himself to be a master of every form of martial arts, using whatever was useful and discarding whatever was merely ritual. Only a few months before he died, Lee said, “I am improving and making new discoveries every day. If you don’t you are already crystallized and that’s it.” - http://www.shawnolson.net/a/55/bruce-lees-philosophy.html

The Shadow

Taking it in its deepest sense, the shadow is the invisible saurian tail that man still drags behind him. Carefully amputated, it becomes the healing serpent of the mysteries. Only monkeys parade with it. The Integration of the Personality. (1939)


Good does not become better by being exaggerated, but worse, and a small evil becomes a big one through being disregarded and repressed. The shadow is very much a part of human nature, and it is only at night that no shadows exist.

"A Psychological Approach to the Dogma of the Trinity" (1942) In CW 11: Psychology and Religion: West and East. P.286


The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.

Aion (1951). CW 9, Part II: P.14

To confront a person with his shadow is to show him his own light. Once one has experienced a few times what it is like to stand judgingly between the opposites, one begins to understand what is meant by the self. Anyone who perceives his shadow and his light simultaneously sees himself from two sides and thus gets in the middle.

"Good and Evil in Analytical Psychology" (1959). In CW 10. Civilization in Transition. P.872


We know that the wildest and most moving dramas are played not in the theatre but in the hearts of ordinary men and women who pass by without exciting attention, and who betray to the world nothing of the conflicts that rage within them except possibly by a nervous breakdown. What is so difficult for the layman to grasp is the fact that in most cases the patients themselves have no suspicion whatever of the internecine war raging in their unconscious. If we remember that there are many people who understand nothing at all about themselves, we shall be less surprised at the realization that there are also people who are utterly unaware of their actual conflicts.

"New Paths in Psychology" (1912). In CW 7: Two Essays on Analytical Psychology. P.425

There is a deep gulf between what a man is and what he represents, between what he is as an individual and what he is as a collective being. His function is developed at the expense of the individuality. Should he excel, he is merely identical with his collective function; but should he not, then, though he may be highly esteemed as a function in society, his individuality is wholly on the level of his inferior, undeveloped functions, and he is simply a barbarian, while in the former case he has happily deceived himself as to his actual barbarism.Psychological Types (1921). CW 6: P.III

Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of Western theosophy, but not the confrontation with the shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. "The Philosophical Tree" (1945). In CW 13: Alchemical Studies. P.335

In reality, the acceptance of the shadow-side of human nature verges on the impossible. Consider for a moment what it means to grant the right of existence to what is unreasonable, senseless, and evil! Yet it is just this that the modern man insists upon. He wants to live with every side of himself-to know what he is. That is why he casts history aside. He wants to break with tradition so that he can experiment with his life and determine what value and meaning things have in themselves, apart from traditional resuppositions.

"Psychotherapist for the Clergy" (1932). In CW 11: Psychology and Religion: West and East. P.528

 
http://psikoloji.fisek.com.tr/jung/shadow.htm

Creative shots, sablay king, and toga

Grad pics during my college days.

On preserving enthusiasm

One day, i was talking to a great musician. I asked him, why he was so good. He says:

"In the morning, always start with a warm up. Take note of  the basics, rather than the most difficult things. When you start the day,  set a side a little bit of time with your instrument. Serious students, specially those who are studying complicated pieces must keep their enthusiasm; try to remember why they started playing the guitar. Do not lose that sense of joy, sense of mystery, sense of fun. That's vital, that's more precious than any technique."

i hate coffee bean and tea leaf

Hindi na ako ever iinom ng kape sa coffee bean and tea leaf. Ang paplastic ng mga barista nila at hindi pa masarap yung kape! Not to mention ang mahal, at ang pangit ng place. Grr. 

Question: Why do pencils have erasers?

Answer: because we are allowed to make mistakes.

A Dozen Ways to Get to Know Your Real Partner The Signs Are All Around You

A Dozen Ways to Get to Know Your Real Partner

The Signs Are All Around You

By Stacy D. Phillips Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: May 20, 2008

In my line of work -- family law -- I often hear the same old refrain when my client explains to me why they split from their significant other. It goes like this, "I guess I didn't really know my partner after all." You might ask, "How could that be?" How could you have an intimate relationship with someone only to wake up one day to find out that the person you fell in love with is not the person they turned out to be?

I believe there are at least a dozen ways to know who someone really is -- indicators -- and if we do an inventory early on, we might stand a better chance of getting to know the real person before we fully commit. The following "observance" suggestions are important ones to make in the early stages of any relationship because each offers insight into habits, patterns, and behaviors. As you ponder these observations, know that there is no right or wrong; it's a matter of acceptance. Sometimes we have to accept quirks and differences as part of the give-and-take process. As you do your assessment, however, the goal is to decide whether or not you can live with or without your real partner.

Here are the dozen indicators:

1. Protocol: First or Second? Whether it's walking through a door, ordering dinner, or taking a bite out of the freshly baked cookies you have made together, if your partner always have to go first this could indicate self- centeredness. Are you willing to always be the giver?

2. Politics: Liberal or Conservative? How your partner views what is right or wrong in a political sense tells you a lot about his deep inner beliefs about society, and ultimately, the way he will approach your relationship issues. Will his views cause a rift in your relationship?

3. Television: Sitcoms or News? If his tendency is to watch "escape" TV programs versus "newsy/event" oriented ones, you can learn a lot about one's intellect. Do you want a mate who can keep up with your every day interest in what is going on in the world or a person you can run away with to avoid the world we live in?

4. Money: Flash or Stash? If your partner throws money around while dating, he might well be reckless with your joint finances when you move in together. Do you want to hook up with a tightwad or splurger?

5. Stress: Freak or Peak? Under Pressure, does he go to pieces or rise to the top of his game? If the answer is the former, every minor incident in your relationship might become a crisis. Do you like a lot of drama?

6. Conversation: About You or Him? As you first get to know each other does he always talk about himself first or you? If he is usually the topic priority do not expect that to change. Can you subordinate yourself to the world revolving around him?

7. Pets: Warm or Aloof? Believe it or not, the way in which he treats animals will not be dissimilar to how he treats your children. How do you want him to treat your loved ones?

8. Communication: Listens or Ignores? If you have something you want to talk about and he tunes you out as a general rule, can you cope?

9. Strangers: Kind or Rude? How he treats those they do not know (waiters, grocery clerks) often reflects on how he will treat people in general, including you, shortly after the glow wears off.

10. Priorities: Family or Work? You can tell almost immediately where a person's preferences lie in terms of what comes first (a family member's illness or a business trip) by the choices he makes when faced with an "either/or" situation. Do you care if he leaves on the next plane to present the such-and-such report if you or the kids have pneumonia?

11. Appearance: Fat or Fit? How he regards his appearance screams loudly about his sense of self-esteem. Those who eat sensibly, workout reasonably, and who take pride in their appearance are the ones who have a great sense of self. Does he really have self-confidence or might it be a front?

12. Faith: Strong or Weak? If you want a peak at his soul, learn more about his spirituality, or lack of it. What a person believes deep down is often what shapes the way in which they conduct their day-to-day affairs. What is your mate's "words to live by?"

Stacy D. Phillips, who represents mostly celebrity and high-net worth individuals, is the managing partner at Phillips, Lerner, Lauzon and Jamra, LLP in Century City, California, and the author of "Divorce: It's All About Control -- How to Win the Emotional, Psychological and Legal Wars." Her web site is controlyourdivorce.com

On Greatness

The greatness in man consists of trying to be great, and you cannot be great if you demand of yourself to be faultless. Such a ridiculous demand results in isolation and emptiness. The true greatness in any human being lies not so much in not making a mistake as in rising above it. We are all mistake makers, but thank God, we have the power  to be mistake breakers. The capacity to rise above a mistake is the beginning of success.
                                                         

Lala at Bo's Coffee Katipunan

Intercity Foodtrip

A photo story of an intercity food-trip!

What is a Friend?

a short cartoon on what is friendship

How to Be a Good Friend

How to Be a Good Friend from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit Have you found yourself pondering how to make that new person in your life be friends with you?  Want to get closer and demonstrate your support, loyalty and love to your mates?  Read on for ways to be a great buddy and in the process, show your pals how you would like to be treated, too.
Steps
1.  Be real.  Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain clique, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows?  That's not friendship, it's opportunism.  Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, rather than being appraised and appropriated by some weird Professor Henry Higgins who thinks he can mold you or who wants you to change for his sake.

2.  Be honest.  A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends.  Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie!  Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out.  If you found yourself lying about something, be honest
- go up to them, tell them the truth and how you felt, as well as how you may think they would've felt (explain that you were second-guessing rather than trusting your friendship).  Don't be a coward; if you know you were at fault for the whole dilemma, own up.  Simply talk about it, hope your friend will forgive you.  They'd most likely appreciate it in the future, to look back and say, 'wow!' I have/had an amazing friend by my side.

3.  Be loyal.To Your friends first!  If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else.  Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back.  Nobody likes a backstabber.  Never say anything about your friend that you would not want to repeat face to face.
Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story.  If someone says something that shocks you and doesn't seem like a thing your friend would do or say, tell them, "I know him/her, and that just doesn't sound right.  Let me talk to him/her, find out his/her perspective on this.  If it turns out to be true, I'll let you know.  Otherwise, I would appreciate it if you didn't spread that around, because it might not be." You can't play both sides of the fence.  Evil is evil and keeping evil secrets can end a friendship.

4.  Be respectful.  Know the boundaries.  Things you and your friend discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to.  She shared it with you - and only you, as far as you know.  Example: If your friend doesn't want to name her crush, don't push her into it.  If she has named her crush, don't tell anyone else.  This is just common courtesy anyone and everyone deserves the expectation that you will keep confidences.

5.  Watch out for your friend.  If you sense that s/he is getting drunk at a party, help him or her to get away from the alcohol.  Don't allow your friend to drive drunk - take his or her keys and/or drive your friend home personally.  If your friend begins talking about running away or committing suicide, tell someone about it.  This rule overrides the "respect privacy" step, because even if your friend begs you not to tell anyone, you should do it anyway.  Suggest a help line or professional to your friend.  Talk to your and your friend's parents first, before involving anyone else.  Exception to this rule: the parents are part of the problem (i.e., abusive, neglectful, alcoholic, drug abusers, etc.) - if this is the case, seek out a trusted teacher or counselor at school, or your parents.

6.  Pitch in for friends during times of crisis.  If your friend has to go to the hospital, you could help pack his or her bags; if her/his dog runs away, help to find it, if he/she needs someone to pick him/her up, be there.  Take notes for your friend in school and give them their homework assignments when they're absent and sick at home.  Send cards and care packages.  If there is a death in his/her family, you might want to attend the funeral or cook dinner for them.  Care about your friend enough to help him or her open up and let tears roll.  Give them a tissue and listen.  You don't have to say anything, just be with them.

7.  If your friend is going through a crisis, don't tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be.  This goes right along with keeping it real.  It's hard not to say this sometimes, but false reassurance can often be worse than none, and it may undermine your friend's ability to get through the crisis as well as they might.  Instead, tell your friend that whatever they need, you are there for them.  If they need to talk, talk; if they need to sit quietly, sit with them; if they need to get their mind off things, take them to a movie or concert.  Give them a hug.  You are friends, not strangers, after all.  Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive.  Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.

8.  Give advice, add perspective.  Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others.
Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances.  Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it.  Your friend must make his or her own decisions.

9.  Give your friend space.  Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people.  Allow it to happen.  There's no need to become clingy or needy.  Allowing one another the time to hang with other friends gives you much-needed breathing room, and allows you to come together fresh and appreciating each other even more.

10.  Make sure your friend doesn't have to spend a birthday alone.  You can hold a party for them (even a surprise party if you can keep a secret) or take them out to dinner and pay for their meal.

11.  Have fun.  It's not all about bleeding hearts and advice to the lovelorn - or at least, it shouldn't be.  Decorate your friend's locker on his or her birthday, have a spa party, host a sleepover, whatever.  Join activities with them.  There are many different activities in school systems today.  Just find a common interest you and your friend share.

12.  Never make a promise you know you can't keep.  Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage.  Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out.  Don't wait until 15 minutes after you were supposed to arrive to call and say, "gee, I'm sorry."
Instead, a quick call to say, "Hey, I know I promised to help you with whatever it is, but my mom is telling me we are going to my aunt's for the weekend, and leaving tomorrow just after school - that means I won't be able to make it.  I'm so sorry.  Can we reschedule?" That's just honoring the fact that your friend is counting on you, and respecting the fact that, given a little notice, your friend might just be able to get someone else to help with whatever it was - or not, whatever.  But at least you won't be hanging your friend out to twist in the wind.

13.  Listen to them; you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say.  Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth.  Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7.  If you're monopolizing every conversation with your feelings, they aren't getting anything out of the friendship.  Invite them to share their hearts with you as often as you share yours with them.

14.  Watch Their Feelings This is very important to abide by.  If your friend has recently broken up or got a bad grade (anything that upsets them) remember to comfort them and help them get through.  Also, don't let your friend push you around.  If both of you like a certain boy, drop it. if one of you still likes him you should make sure that it is okay with your other friend too.

15.  Don't Abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" This is the most important of all of the rules.If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate.  Money doesn't have to be an issue.  Don't use your friends!  Don't let them pay everytime you go out, even if they offer.
Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house.  No one wants to be friends with a moocher or feel used.If you borrow something from a friend,take good care of it and then return it without being asked.Also if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you.  Especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretences.  It's proper etiquette.  Just like returning an engagment ring if you don't marry the person who gave it to you.

16.  Live by the golden rule.always treat a friend as you would want to be treated.  If you don't there will be repercussions.Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you.  Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you.  Also learn to forgive.  If there is an arguement.  Truly access yourself and your behavior in the past.Sometimes you should be the one to apologize.
Your previous actions could have led to the situation.


Tips
* Good friends:
o are nice to each other.
o Trust each other o share their last piece of gum.
o spend time with each other.
o listen and help each other feel better when they are sad.
o are happy for each other.
o remember each other's birthdays.
o do things "just because"
o keep each other's secrets.
o let each other have other friends.
o give one another the benefit of the doubt.
* Good friends don't:
o steal things.
o ignore each other.
o call each other names.
o stay mad for very long.
o do drugs.
o cancel plans at the last minute to go hang-out with someone else.
o blurt out each other's secrets to other people.
o talk behind each other's backs.
o insist on playing "their way".
o leave each other out on games, or o lie and then lie again about your lie.
* You don't have to spend a lot of money to be a good friend.  The best gifts are often hand-made and come from the heart.
* Don't set too many expectations and rules.  That's just trapping others in your dimension.  Allowing your friendship to evolve and change naturally is really best - it allows your friend to be as unique and individual as you are, and for both of you to enjoy one another in that light.
* If someone is in any difficulty and he/she's behave very angryful to you then don't be angry and try to understand their problems.


Warnings
* Do not be clingy!  This will make someone dislike you right away.  If you want to know something about a friend, ask them, not others and the internet.
* Experience for yourself and form your own opinions.  Don't just take the shortcut and ask others for theirs, or stereotypically assign that stereotype to anyone.  Any person can transcend stereoype be the most wonderful person you've ever met in your life - keep your mind open and form your own opinions.
* Don't be needy and greedy by taking up all your friend's time.  This could get extremely annoying and irritating.  He/she will WANT to get rid of you if you become needy.  Relax and trust in your friendship, and allow each other the freedom to be with each others, or with others, or just alone.
* Don't hang out with somebody because you're both "nerds" or you're both "geeks" or "gangsters" .  You don't have to hang out with people just like you.  Sometimes the weirdest friend combos make the best of friends.

How to Love

  Steps

1. Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.
2. Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.
3. Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
4. Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.
5. Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

 

  Tips

• It does not make you a bad person to desire someone else's love, even if they do not love you. However, to truly love someone, you must let them be free. It is selfish to blame them for your feelings.
• There are many types of love, for example: a mother-son love is different from a best friend's love, which is different from a romantic love. Don't be ashamed to tell anyone that you love your friends as much as you love anyone else in your life.
• You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with - not just someone to make love to.
• As a word, love can be found worldwide and is often used to describe compassion and/or emotional attachment. Accepting those you love for who they are is part of love. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love your self, how are you to love another?
• Love genuinely. Do not compare your feelings now to what your feelings were when you were with another mate.  At times, we can experience rejection.
• Realize that love is a feeling that wikihow can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love.
• Do things that make the other person feel good, but do not smother them with gifts and attention.
• Consider some tips about what people in love do.
  •   People in love are sensitive to each other's needs, and endeavor to meet them even when they do not feel like doing it.
  •   Men and women may be equal in value but different by nature. People who truly are in love give their mates "space" to develop their potential and find their fulfillment in life.
  •   Love does not brag. People who are truly in love refrain from rehearsing their good traits just to show off. Bragging in a relationship often is really defensiveness.
  •   People who are truly in love do not insist that their way is best and demand that their mates give in to them.
  •   People who are truly in love are considerate of each others feelings and courteous in their actions toward one another. Sadly sarcasm is a way of life for some couples. They ridicule each other, belittle each other and trade jibes with a fury. They may say it is all in fun, but it leaves wounds that will someday become festering sores.
  •   People who are truly in love look out for their mates' best interests as much as their own. Those in love should be concerned not only about their own individual interests, but about the interests of the other as well.
  •   People who truly love control their anger when the other displeases them. We are all human, and all humans feel anger periodically, but we only express our anger in destructive ways when we counting on someone else to meet our needs.
  •   People who truly love each other do not take pleasure in their mates' disappointments or failures.
  •   People who truly love each other treat their mates with absolute trust. Some husbands and wives torment themselves with groundless suspicions. If you look for trouble you will find it every time.
  •   People who truly love look forward to their relationship growing more meaningful and precious. They have hope. Which is an attitude that happily anticipates the good. It isn't being blind and denies there are problems, but it does look beyond the problems. People who truly love each other do not allow their problems to rob them of their happiness.

 

  Warnings

• You must love yourself before you can love another.
• There is always the risk of getting hurt, but that's part of letting yourself fully love and trust some one. Being hurt could be long-lasting and could hurt more than anything in the world.
• Realize what you have while you have it, and care for the person you trust.
• If something comes to an end, try to let go rather than holding on; it's for the best.
• The idea of love is fueled by childhood fantasies. The love shown in movies, as obtainable as it may be, is rare to say the least.
• You just may find your soul-mate sooner than you want to.
• If you feel any doubt of love your partner has for you, it is probably true. when you give and receive love 100%, you will have no doubt in your heart.
• Don't ask for love - you should receive love because your partner wants to give you love - not because you want it from your partner.
• Do not force love - it will come in good time, it will come.

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Soapdish - Tensionado

Tensionado
Nagulat din ako
Nong malaman na hindi lang pala ako
Yung nanghinayang
Nong nagaway tayo noon
At natuluyan sa iyakan at tampo

Chorus:
At sandali lang
Huwag ka munang magsalita
Di ko hahayaan lahat ito ay mawala
Ang iniisip ko kung pwede pa ba tayo

At miserable
Paulit-ulit lang ang nangyayari
Paikot-ikot tayo parang bote
At nasanay ka na ba doon
At nalimutan ang aking mga tanong

Chorus 2:
At hindi malinaw
Pwede bang wag kang sumigaw
Di ko hahayaan lahat ito ay maligaw
Nagtatanong sayo kung pwede pa ba tayo

Chorus 3:
At sandali lang
Huwag ka munang magsalita
Di ko hahayaan lahat ito ay mawala

Nagtatanong sayo kung pwede pa ba tayo

Me and the bee

Theory of multiple intelligences - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_multiple_intelligences

UP graduation pics (2006)

wannabee rockstar

Taytay falls, Majayjay, Laguna

A trip to the hidden falls of Majayjay falls deep in the forests of laguna.

improving memory

http://www.web-us.com/memory/improving_memory.htm

Don't kiss your opponent -do and be knocked out - sweet punch

Pets

meet the household pets.

Manny Pacquiao in Concert Part II

pacquiao's training that made him win the fight.

wellbeing

"They have a vision and it's usually a big vision and it's very clear. They are energetic. They are enthusiastic. They love what they do and they love people. They are primarily honest. They work incredibly hard but their work isn't work, it's play. They are persistent; in other words, they keep trying. They take risks and in conjunction with that, they learn from their failures. If they fail, rather than going into depression and jumping off the bridge, they would say: How fascinating! So, what can we learn from that."

Tools of the Trade

Just what every law student needs to survive the day.















And of course, its contents.
















This is me 2 hours before class...
















Allies... Allen and Noel
.

Discernment

It happened. It just did. One day everything just became clear.

 2. The power or faculty of the mind by which it distinguishes
        one thing from another; power of viewing differences in
        objects, and their relations and tendencies; penetrative
        and discriminate mental vision; acuteness; sagacity;
        insight; as, the errors of youth often proceed from the
        want of discernment.
  
     Syn: Judgment; acuteness; discrimination; penetration;
          sagacity; insight. -- Discernment, Penetration,
          Discrimination. Discernment is keenness and accuracy
          of mental vision; penetration is the power of seeing
          deeply into a subject in spite of everything that
          intercepts the view; discrimination is a capacity of
          tracing out minute distinctions and the nicest shades of
          thought. A discerning man is not easily misled; one of a
          penetrating mind sees a multitude of things which escape
          others; a discriminating judgment detects the slightest
          differences.
          

Maroon 5 - Makes Me Wonder OFFICIAL MUSIC VIDEO

classmates, cousins. planner..

the society of the traveling hoods

Me: Law School before and after

Before:











I used think i was smart, to lack in law school.
I used to sleep at night, to lack in law school
I used to have a life, to lack in law school.
I thought i was the shit, now i know I'm not the shit, thanks to law school
I cant stand what i see, friends and family, ask me how's law school?
And i have to say something like - it's driving me crazy, the work is endless the stress is relentless, my arguments defenseless, my choice of profession was senseless.
I used to have a sense of humor, to lack in law school
I never used to hear voices, to lack in the law school.
I never had gray hairs to lack in law school
I used to think I'm shit, now I know I'm not shit.
If there's one L life is hell.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N8ABhatAfsA&eurl=http://profiles.friendster.com/user.php
After:

K810 pics

Pics that you don't expect to come from a camera phone!!

xmas07

I had a blast with our xmas celebration!

Part 1: Adopt the Right Frame of Mind

http://www.lawnerds.com/guide/mind.html
tips on how to be a better law student

Tales Of Mere Existence "How To Cope With Depression"

Tales Of Mere Existence "How To Break Up"

This shows 64 easy steps on the process of breaking up with your girlfriend (boyfriend). Those who can relate to this, you know who you are. enjoy.

Before Sunset quotes

Jesse: Life's hard. It's supposed to be. If we didn't suffer, we'd never learn anything.

Celine: Memory's a wonderful thing if you don't have to deal with the past.

Celine: You can never replace anyone because everyone is made up of such beautiful specific details.

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Celine: I was having this awful nightmare that I was 32. And then I woke up and I was 23. So relieved. And then I woke up for real, and I was 32.

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Celine: There are so many things I want to do, but I end up doing not much.

Jesse: I was a drummer in a band, we are pretty good actually, but then our lead singer guy was so obsessed in getting us a record deal, and looking back at shows we did play - it was
so much fun.. now i would be able to enjoy every minute of it.

Celine: well Your book has been published that's pretty much a big deal have been to Europe
and toured around, are you enjoying every minute of it?

Jesse:no not really! (laughs)

Celine: In my work i see a lot of the true work of improving things is in the little achievements ofthe day.

Jesse: I think that's really what I admire about what you are doing... you're undetached from life. You are putting passion in into the action.

failure

setbacks are part of life you cant avoid them

25 at 25

Thank you sa lahat ng pumunta sa birthday ko. I REALLY never thought that it would be that fun! Salamat sa mga bumati sakin. Kay joe, jp, Rachelle, cherry, domini, avril, meg,  allen, jez, tin, bey, chris, seamus, jodan, miss hernandez, miss gabby, miss micai, mymy, luck, tita cora, mama tatay, ange, ryan dj, atty jing, joyce, paul krisy rika and friends, tito edsel and family, joanne. Sa lahat ng mga nagregalo, sa lahat ng nag wish, sa lahat ng pumunta MARAMING MARAMING SALAMAT. tHANK YOU sa mga sinamahan ako maglasing, thank you sa mga nagluto, nagdala ng pagkain, inumin. Maraming maraming maraming salamat. Sorry sa mga hindi ko naimbita, hindi ko talaga inaakala na marami, it was supposed to be a family affair lang, kaya nga konti lang ang putahe. salamat sa san mig, grand ma, at sa cog- nac.
THis is really a memorable experience. Come to think of it, i've spent 1/3rd of my life na. 25 at 25! i will really treasure this legacy and I am happy that a lot came to celebrate it with me.
Sana invite niyo din ako sa mga birthday niyo, at sana makapunta kayo sa mga susunod ko pang birthdays na darating. Again, maraming maraming salamat, lalo don sa mga nageffort talaga despite their busy scheds, tight budget, etc. Maraming maraming salamat i can't thank you enough guys! mabuhay kayo. :)

bogus date personality

Your dating personality profile: Liberal - Politics matters to you, and you aren't afraid to share your left-leaning views.  You would never be caught voting for a conservative candidate. Romantic - You know exactly how to melt your date's heart.  Romance comes naturally to you and is an important component of any relationship you have. Funny - You laugh often.  People never accuse you of lacking a sense of humor.  You don't take yourself too seriously.

Your date match profile: Funny - You consider a good sense of humor a major necessity in a date.  If her jokes make you laugh, she has won your heart. Practical - You are drawn to people who are sensible and smart.  Flashy, materialistic people turn you off.  You appreciate the simpler side of living. Conservative - Forget liberals, you need a conservative match.  Political discussions interest you, and a conservative will offer the viewpoint you need.

Your Top Ten Traits 1. Liberal 2. Romantic 3. Funny 4. Stylish 5. Adventurous 6. Wealthy/Ambitious 7. Outgoing 8. Athletic 9. Intellectual 10. Big-Hearted

Your Top Ten Match Traits 1. Funny 2. Practical 3. Conservative 4. Adventurous 5. Romantic 6. Athletic 7. Sensual 8. Wealthy/Ambitious 9. Intellectual 10. Stylish

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Goodbye Booze, Hello Books

Goodbye booze, hello books. Today is my last petiks day. I have to go back to my dorm, clean it and get ready for my training. Speaking of books, law books are damn expensive, about 1,500 each and I have to buy around 5 books per sem, and I'm poor as a rat. But, I am always reminded that:
If you think education is expensive, try ignorance.
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Since I'm a big fan of boxing, I've watched the much anticipated fight of Marquez vs Juarez. Marquez was the one who beat Manny Pacquiao's ass. And it seems to me that Manny is scared to face Marquez again. MP is real  coward, he opts for big money fights instead of real boxing glory and legacy. Marquez is one of my favorite fighters in the super lightweight, he punches with precision, nothing flashy but a real technician. Marquez and Pacquiao should really beat each other para magakaalaman na, if not, I'm convinced that MP is a real pussy.

Criteria of truth

Truth 

 Criteria of truth

If someone believes something, they think that it is true, but they may be mistaken. This is not the case with knowledge. For example, a man thinks that a particular bridge is safe, and he attempts to cross it; unfortunately, the bridge collapses under his weight. It could be said that the man believed that the bridge was safe, but that his belief was mistaken. It would not be accurate to say that he knew that the bridge was safe, because plainly it was not. For something to count as knowledge, it must actually be true.

The Aristotelian definition of truth states:

"To say of something which is that it is not, or to say of something which is not that it is, is false. However, to say of something which is that it is, or of something which is not that it is not, is true."

Personality Disorder

Disorder	Rating
Paranoid Personality Disorder:	Low
Schizoid Personality Disorder:	Low
Schizotypal Personality Disorder:	Low
Antisocial Personality Disorder:	Low
Borderline Personality Disorder:	Low
Histrionic Personality Disorder:	Low
Narcissistic Personality Disorder:	Moderate
Avoidant Personality Disorder:	Low
Dependent Personality Disorder:	Low
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder:	Low
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Bar Exam Tips & Secrets

Bar Exam Tips & Secrets

 

THE GREAT FORMULA

IN PASSING THE BAR EXAMINATIONS

Contributed by:

Atty. Glenn M. Mortel

(espogi4@yahoo.com)

"There is nothing that can help a bar examinee most than a constant and intensive study of the provisions of the various codes and the interpretation and application thereof by the Supreme Court in its decisions. By study is meant, that the provisions must be correctly understood and the thought or words thereof put to memory. After a chapter, for example, has been studied, the next one should be studied next, and after this, a review of all that has already been studied re-reviewed, to keep the subject matter and the provisions fresh in mind." - Alejo Labrador

1. Actual preparation for the bar examination starts from the first day a law student attended class during the first year in the law school.

2. The blooming secret in passing the bar examination is this: Present good answers that will make the examiners take notice. Good answers anchored upon logical reasoning, written in readable English and more importantly, justified by appropriate legal authority.

3. If the candidates are at a loss as to what specific legal provisions or case doctrines to use in answering problems, the only alternative left for them is to use their own common sense.

4. The key to passing the bar examinations is contained in one word: ARTICULATION. Articulation is expressive of the following basic fundamentals: good language, impressive presentation, logical reasoning and substantial background knowledge of law and procedure.

5. The examinee who has a fairly good command of English, assuming that he is prepared in all other matters, stands definitely with a much better chance of passing.

6. The responsive character of a given answer would depend to a great extent, on command of good language, logical reasoning and impressive presentation. This objective of preparing impressive and responsive answers can only be achieved by constant practice.

7. Get this straight right now. Passing the bar examination has been, still is, and will always be a difficult proposition!

8. No one can really help you pass the bar examination but yourself.

9. The greatest blooming secret of passing the bar examination is and will always be: PREPARATION! Not just any kind of preparation, but proper, sound and systematic preparation.

10. Systematic review can only be done by the use of what we call schedules which the candidate must follow vigorously to the letter if he expects to attain the best results.

11. There will be times when you become sleepy while reviewing but never for one moment, tell yourself: Man, this review can wait! Do not be stupid. Always remind yourself that time is of the essence and is decidedly running too short for you.

12. Force yourself to read, understand and absorb what law you reviewed. Otherwise, all your efforts will go to waste.

13. Love and review cannot mix in the business of preparing for the bar examination.

14. Early to bed, early to rise, that is the way to make a man healthy, wealthy and wise.

15. A morning shower is a must.

16. Never stay up late to the wee hours of morning, cramming law into your head. This would not do you any good. Remember, you have to conserve as much energy as you possibly can.

17. Remember, keeping your health in good running condition is just as important as reviewing and passing the bar examination.

18. Good handwriting is decidedly a great factor in passing the bar examination.

19. To beat time, never write kilometric answers.

20. By far the most important tool that the bar candidate could equip himself with which to tackle the examination that is inherently personal to him is command of written English.

21. You have to write simple, grammatically correct English if you want to hurdle the examination.

22. Presentation of answers that are not only good but logical, full of substance and supported by law and other authorities, are gems to the examiner, whether he has a good or black heart.

23. Make your motto now: Stick to codal provisions! Compliment this with doctrines laid down in recent decisions of the Supreme Court.

24. Impressive answers showing the candidates reasoning faculty is what the examiners want to read in your examination notebooks.

25. Ability to retain your understanding of the substance of the law through efforts of study is more desirable quality to possess than mere ability to memorize legal provisions.

26. Memorizing a particular provision of law word for word but without understanding it and its various implications is a lot of wasted effort.

27. Never fail to read the newspapers when you are preparing for the bar examination. Read newspapers from 20 to 30 minutes every day.

28. You can never expect to pass the bar examination without preparation.

29. Predicting probable questions based on important principles or provisions of law is the safer method of speculating what the examiners are likely to ask in their examinations.

30. Never depend on tips for your passing. But never brush these tips aside as nothing but trash. They may likely cause your downfall. Never, however, bank too much on them.

31. Cheating is one sure way to endanger your future career as a prospective member of the legal profession. Never commit such atrocious act like cheating in the bar examination. It never pays. Depend on your own capabilities. Fight your battle royale on a high plane!

32. Fountain or sign pens are really the most important equipment in bar examination. Never start for the examination without bringing along with you two or more fountain or sign pens.

33. Like the weather, examiners are absolutely a bunch of unpredictable fellows, capable of asking unpredictable questions.

34. Do not try to memorize 50 definitions or distinctions in any given time. Two or three will do.

35. The real secret in remembering the matters contained in an enumeration is the use of keywords. Make your keywords on enumerations you consider important.

36. Never leave a blank in an enumeration! However, if you use the letters a, b, c, etc. for numbers in the enumeration, so much the better. Ten to one, the examiner may not count his fingers. Make the first four in the enumeration definitely good.

37. The bar candidate should do well to be always on guard against catchy questions capable of being answered in a number of ways, e.g. What is a complaint? The perfect answer should include both definitions in criminal and civil procedure.

38. Never be content to answer questions with a mere yes or no. You must, at all times, give justification why your answer is a yes or no. Unless, of course, the examiner qualifies his question with instruction enclosed in parenthesis like: (Answer with a yes or no only).

39. Always determine the real facts (examiners have the bad habit of including irrelevant facts to confuse you) and the issue or issues in controversy. Which side you take, always justify your side with reasons based on law, rule, equity and justice. Whatever your answer may be, provided it is written in legible language, the examiner will never deny you the corresponding credit you deserve.

40. Always remember, make efforts to frame your answers so that they are responsive to the questions. Never beat around the bush. Go right straight ahead with your answer. Avoid citations if and when you are not absolutely sure about them. The shorter the answers are, the more direct, the better. Avoid display of flowery expressions which are complicated by legal verbosity. All you need are sensible, direct and reasonable answers that are responsive to the questions.

41. Legal knowledge is not enough to solve a particular legal issue. What is important is ability to apply this knowledge to the solution of legal controversies.

42. The most convenient method of tackling problem questions is to present immediately the conclusion of a given answer. Practice, practice, constant practice will help the bar candidate write good answers that examiners will give favorable credit.

43. The technique of writing down answers responsive to questions is a matter that the candidate must learn as a matter of imperative necessity.

44. Brevity and directness when done properly could make an answer both effective and impressive. However, when overdone to a point where the ideas sought to be conveyed becomes vague and difficult to understand, they become a liability.

45. Never forget that every candidate is a potential bar topnotcher.

46. So, if you are a candidate just preparing for the bar examination, whose chances of passing are quite problematical, just limit your ambition for the present to just working hard to obtain a 75 percent in the great battle of your life.

47. Take comfort in this: That even those who become lawyers by "just luck", are making good in the practice of law. Nothing can really put a determined man down.

48. In your preparation for the greatest battle of your life, call upon Him who is the source of all knowledge, wisdom and understanding. In deep humility, bended knees and tears, He will make all things beautiful in His time. Victory belongs to the most persevering!

Note:

All excerpts, except the last (No. 48), were taken by Atty. GLENN M. MORTEL from the book "SECRETS ON HOW TO PASS THE BAR EXAMINATION" by Dean Wenceslao G. Laureta, 1990 edition.

Why Men Handle Breakups Differently Than Women

When your woman tells you it is over you may be very angry at first. But as time goes by you may begin to wonder what happened and how you can get over the hurt and pain you are feeling. Men handle breakups very badly sometimes. Here are some reasons why that is.

If a man has been in a relationship for one year or more, chances are he has very few men friends that he spends time with anymore. If this describes your situation you are not alone. Women tend to have a large circle of women friends, relatives, and acquaintances that they can turn to when they breakup with their man. Men, on the other hand, tend to have almost no one they can talk to. Men are less likely to talk about the end of their relationship with anyone else and because of this they become very withdrawn. It may be many months before they discuss it with anyone, if ever.

Women show their emotions very easily most of the time. Men would rather discuss almost anything rather than things that are so personal to them. Men will pretend that breaking up with their woman was no big deal but, in reality, they may be on the verge of breaking down at any time. If you are feeling depressed and unhappy about a recent breakup look for someone that you can be open and honest with about how you are feeling. Getting your emotions out will be a big relief to you and help in the healing process.

Men dislike dating and meeting someone new. They would rather stay in a relationship that is not working any more than to have to risk being alone and having to work at meeting someone new. If you have just broken up with someone that was not truly a good match for you try to see it as an opportunity for you to eventually meet the right person to be in a relationship with. It may be hard to even think about that is your breakup happened recently, but know that it is not healthy to stay in a bad relationship.

If your woman has broken up with you, understand that you will probably feel terrible about it for quite a while. That is completely normal. Relationships are not easy. Try to figure out what went wrong so that you will have a better, long lasting relationship the next time around.

Relationships are never easy but you can learn how to have a happy, long lasting love with someone you care deeply about.

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superhero personality

Your results:
You are The Flash

The Flash 70% Spider-Man 60% Batman 60% Iron Man 60% Hulk 60% Green Lantern 55% Superman 55% Supergirl 53% Wonder Woman 48% Catwoman 40% Robin 32%

Fast, athletic and flirtatious.

Click here to take the Superhero Personality Test

Starbucks and DQ Bloopers

Starbucks Banaue
Barista: Goodevening sir.
Rah: Isang brewed coffee, tall.
Barista: (gets cup, turns out kulang yung coffee para mapuno yung cup) Ah.. Er.. sir would you like a space for you milk sir?
Rah: No. (Palusot pa eh)

Starbucks Araneta Center
Barista: Your name sir, for the cup
Rah: R.A.
(after about a month, i went there again same guy)
Barista: Oh R.A. galing kang school? Ano satin ngayon?
Rah: White Choco...
(After about another month)
Barista: R.A. Kamusta? Nagwowork ka na ba?
Rah.. ah oo, sa research ako.. blah blah blah
Barista: O, goodluch sa work mo ah.
(After 2 months)
Barista Oh R.A. San ka na ngayon?
Rah: Nagaaral na ulit ako...
(After 3 months nakita niya ako sa Mendiola)
Barista: Oh R.A. dito ka pala.. hindi ka napapadaan sa Starbucks Cubao ah.
Rah: (WAAAAAAAAAAA tan tanan mo ko, di tayo close.)

Dairy Queen Cubao
Rah: Isang Rocky Road
Barista: (Shows that the ice cream is not dripping by serving it upside down... Brings it back to the upright position and lays it down the counter then NATUMBA. A part of the side of the ice cream touches the counter... an uncomfortable pause... she looks at me and I looked at her.. ) then she says: "Thank you sir!" pushing the ice cream towards me"
Rah: *Scratches his head

Starbucks Banaue ulit
Overheard
Girl: Caramel Frap, tall
Barista: Makes the Frap pero kulang
Girl: Para atang ang konti ng frap niyo ngayon?
Barista: Ah er, Sige ulitin nalang natin.
Rah: Hehehe

Carpenters - Goodbye To Love

bye to love. ako yung nagigitara dito. pati mukha ko naggitara

Wenongayon?

Who cares kung wala akong pera palagi?
Who cares kung mahirap ang school?
Who cares kung lagi nalang akong walang gana?
Who cares kung ayaw niya?
Who cares kung magisa lang ako?
Who cares kung boring ako?
Who cares kung lagi nalang ako depressed lately?
Who cares kung hindi ako maintindihan ng tao?
Who cares kung hindi  ako masaya?Who cares kung gusto ko ng tahimik lang na buhay?
Who cares kung feeling ko ang tanda ko na?
Who cares kung malakas ako uminom?
Who cares kung gusto ko ng donut palagi?
Who cares kung pagchismisan man ako ng mga tao?
Who cares kung minsan naluluha nalang ako bigla dahil di ko na alam ang gagawin ko?
Who cares?? WHO CARES?!?!

Today is Chess Day

I love chess. Some people think it is a boring game, but not for me. Believe me, my adrenalin rush every time I get play a good game of chess. When I  was a little kid, my old man enrolled me in Chess Milo Best in Manila. I would commute for 2 hours just so I can  get along with chess fanatics like me. Chess taught me a lot of things about life. I taught me to be imaginative, to be patient, and to focus.
***
Glorietta bombings. Multiple murder with multiple serious physical injury. Complex Crime punishable by death. But, because death is suspended, the criminal would probably end up to prison in no more than 40 years.
***
Finals is finished; Murphy's Law; Is something can go wrong, it will go wrong. My Persons and Family Relations was damn hard. I reviewed the wrong materials, I've always known those reviewers were jinx. I should stick with the good design.
***
After finals party; Poker; I won; thanks Miss Cherry for teaching me how to play poker, you are really a champion.
***
Dating; Mall of Asia; Time Zone; I knew it, that guy is making porma with Ms. Videoke girl. I can read it in his body language.
Same; Same; Ice Skating; It was fun skating with you. Thank you din sa pansit, at sa Sizzling. I really missed you. I'm sorry can't come to your house. I have a paper to finish.
***
Fish Fraud; my favorite fish died, and no one told me. It took like a month before I found out. It turned out that Old man, bought another fish that was identical to my gold fish so that I would not feel that bad. Aww. sweet. goes to show what you don't know can't hurt you.
***

What are friends for?

Come to think of it, what are friends for? One of the better answers I've found is from my favorite book by Baltazar Gracian:

Let friendly relations be a school of knowledge, and culture be taught through conversation: thus you make your friends your teachers and mingle the pleasures of conversation with the advantages of instruction. Sensible persons thus enjoy alternating pleasures: they reap applause for what they say, and gain instruction from what they hear. We are always attracted to others by our own interest,

p. 7

but in this case it is of a higher kind. Wise men frequent the houses of great noblemen not because they are temples of vanity, but as theatres of good breeding. There be gentlemen who have the credit of worldly wisdom, because they are not only themselves oracles of all nobleness by their example and their behaviour, but those who surround them form a well-bred academy of worldly wisdom of the best and noblest kind.

- baltazar gracian

dura lex said rah

As the famous maxim in law: "Dura lex sed lex" - the law is harsh, but it is the law. Another way to say it is Dura lex said RAh - which simply means law is hard and my ass  is on the line. Indeed it is tough, especially now that finals is at bay. It is time to hibernate and prepare. It's either make or break.

Canon in D on Guitar

Playing Canon in D on Epiphone Masterbilt AJ-500R

Arranged by Chief Noda and David Atkinson. Performed by me :)